Someday I want to love someone so much that when they come home, I won't care who sees me run to him and jump in his arms.
Life is too short to be so guarded.
Philippians 2:2-3If a real, loving relationship is ever going to be possible, you can't live in the 50/50 mindset. Each person has to give their full 100%, and trust each other enough to believe that the other is doing the same. As long as you're looking at the relationship in terms of what you can get out of it, you're never putting enough in. When your primary concern isn't your partner's needs, but your own, neither of you will ever have those needs fulfilled. It's a type of the Prisoner's Dilemma, really: the only way for both parties to have the best possible outcome is if they put the other person first.
"Fulfill ye my joy, that ye be like-minded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind.
Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem the other better than themselves. "
“In the judgment with which we shall be judged, all the conditions and circumstances of our lives shall be considered. The inborn tendencies due to heredity, the effect of environment whether conducive to good or evil, the wholesome teachings of youth, or the absence of good instruction—these and all other contributory elements must be taken into account in the rendering of a just verdict as to the soul’s guilt or innocence. Nevertheless, the divine wisdom makes plain what will be the result with given conditions operating on known natures and dispositions of men, while every individual is free to choose good or evil within the limits of the many conditions existing and operative.”